On the three parts.

It’s a three part process. That’s why we’ll have three calls.

Call 1- Unravelling what the challenge means for you.

First you’ve picked one (there are ten Modules to choose from, each representing a common challenge faced by parents and carers of Little Wildflowers) and that’s a step in itself to be acknowledged and celebrated. Because often we’re living in a sea of interconnected challenges with our Little Wildflowers and crossing that whole sea in one go feels impossible…is impossible.

Lay it all out while being heard and supported to stay grounded.

Speak aloud the things you think and fear and worry about.

Acknowledge where the thoughts come from, how they make sense and whether or not they are actually true.

Connect with how you feel about the challenge. Explore the energy and emotions your body holds about it all. Allow yourself to express the hardest parts so that you can clear some space for moving forward.

Let what is left settle back into the spaces. Let a new and clearer understanding of where you are and where you want to be emerge.

Call 2- Look again and create a plan.

Bring curiosity to the gap and the overlap between where you are and where you want to be with the challenge.

Be supported and encouraged to let your thoughts and ideas flow, to think big, to think possibilities.

Feel into your inner knowing, connect with how and where you know you need to move on the challenge.

Setup a plan and put steps in place to try some things and observe.

Call 3- Assess and adjust for sustainability and change.

Share and look at what worked and what didn’t. Explore why, bringing curiosity and openness for all of it. Acknowledge the information can guide you forward either way.

Ask again, ‘Where to from here?’ and feel into the need for any direction shift.

Put the long term steps in place and set an intention of practice, of habit building, of a new pattern to bring ease to the challenge.

Congratulate yourself. The end is just the start. You are ready to begin. If you hadn’t started with the first step a few short weeks ago where would you still be today?

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At the end of this process no two ‘third calls’ are the same but they are all bittersweet. There is sometimes, surprise, relief and breakthrough, there is sometimes not. There is often a sombre sense of knowing that the difficult step that has been taken, the heavy stuff that has been lifted has cleared space for another step and another layer of stuff underneath. Behaviour change is hard, understanding the emotions under the behaviour in order to shift the energy of challenge is complex.

We walk this path with our children because somewhere deep down we know we must. Because we sense that the other option, not facing the difficult and heavy to be able to understand and shift it, is turning us towards and pushing us in the direction of something we could not bear.